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Fri, May 18, 2007 08:12:13 AM
∞ if i am sincerely willing to accept the responsibilities involved in friendship ∞
posted: Fri, May 18, 2007 08:12:13 AM
and make the amends i owe, those friendships can become stronger and richer than ever.
so i bet you tuned in today expecting me to whine about how i felt after writing my character defect list, well the truth is last night i felt like shit, but this morning the process is starting to kick in so i am not nearly in such a bad spot, a little bleary and worse for wear and tear, but all things considered no bad.
so the saga of my sixth step moves on, and today i get to think about my relationships, specifically those relationships called friendships. honestly, i have yet to learn how to form an large number of casual friendships. for me each and every friend i have is important. since there are few members of humanity i choose to call my friends, my relationships are quite deep and when i step on one of their toes, it generally cuts deep. the reading this morning reminds me that if i want to continue to have friends, and i want those friendships to grow, then i NEED to take responsibility for my part in disagreements or me just plain being a real shit. the responsibility i NEED to take is to acknowledge my part in it, without blame, justifications, rationalizations or obfuscation. there is a step for that, and although the reading speaks about amends it is the tenth step where i find the tools to figure out my part in the whole putrid affair, and figure out what i need to do to correct, repair and amend the relationship.
so off to deal with some issues and let me see if i can get through today without the need to make any amends for my behavior.
so i bet you tuned in today expecting me to whine about how i felt after writing my character defect list, well the truth is last night i felt like shit, but this morning the process is starting to kick in so i am not nearly in such a bad spot, a little bleary and worse for wear and tear, but all things considered no bad.
so the saga of my sixth step moves on, and today i get to think about my relationships, specifically those relationships called friendships. honestly, i have yet to learn how to form an large number of casual friendships. for me each and every friend i have is important. since there are few members of humanity i choose to call my friends, my relationships are quite deep and when i step on one of their toes, it generally cuts deep. the reading this morning reminds me that if i want to continue to have friends, and i want those friendships to grow, then i NEED to take responsibility for my part in disagreements or me just plain being a real shit. the responsibility i NEED to take is to acknowledge my part in it, without blame, justifications, rationalizations or obfuscation. there is a step for that, and although the reading speaks about amends it is the tenth step where i find the tools to figure out my part in the whole putrid affair, and figure out what i need to do to correct, repair and amend the relationship.
so off to deal with some issues and let me see if i can get through today without the need to make any amends for my behavior.
∞ DT ∞
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While the author is a member of a 12 Step recovery fellowship, these writings are not intended to endorse or express the published wisdom of any fellowship.
These writings are not meant to be socially or politically correct, and if you take issue with any opinions expressed, please seek the guidance of someone wiser than me.
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☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
by Lao-Tse
Translated by James Legge
Book 1
1) We look at it, and we do not see it, and we name it 'the Equable.'
We listen to it, and we do not hear it, and we name it 'the Inaudible.'
We try to grasp it, and do not get hold of it, and we name it 'the
Subtle.' With these three qualities, it cannot be made the subject
of description; and hence we blend them together and obtain The One.