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Thu, Aug 23, 2007 09:41:37 AM
∞ today, my decisions and their consequences need not be influenced by my disease. ∞
posted: Thu, Aug 23, 2007 09:41:37 AM
my faith gives me the courage and direction to make good decisions and the strength to act on them.
yes it is true that as i grow in recovery, i have the ability to make better decisions. yes it is true that being consistent in making good decisions has also become part of my life.
so after a rough start to my day, well the day started fine, just had one bad interaction with a person who refuses to admit that she can make a mistake, and of course i am the blame for her inability to do her work.
so it goes.... it is up to me, to make the changes necessary to allow her to make her data entry error and let things work as they should. that is after all why they pay me.
so what does this have to do with decision making and making good ones. well for one, with dealing with this person, i NEED to make the decision to say yes you are right, fix the problem and leave any confrontation out of it. not part of the way i am wired, but recovery has removed other other pieces of the wiring that have been added to me over the course of living. so perhaps this immediate reaction and my need to show someone how wrong they are will be removed. or perhaps even better i will be able to stop and decide that there are other battles to be fought and let me just shut-up and take the blame for her mistakes.
so the lesson for today, at least for me, is that when it comes to dealing with my family members, the old decision-making process needs to be evaluated and let go of. after all, in every other area of my life, i am learning how to deal with others, so why not my family. well i need to go get an acupuncture treatment....
yes it is true that as i grow in recovery, i have the ability to make better decisions. yes it is true that being consistent in making good decisions has also become part of my life.
so after a rough start to my day, well the day started fine, just had one bad interaction with a person who refuses to admit that she can make a mistake, and of course i am the blame for her inability to do her work.
so it goes.... it is up to me, to make the changes necessary to allow her to make her data entry error and let things work as they should. that is after all why they pay me.
so what does this have to do with decision making and making good ones. well for one, with dealing with this person, i NEED to make the decision to say yes you are right, fix the problem and leave any confrontation out of it. not part of the way i am wired, but recovery has removed other other pieces of the wiring that have been added to me over the course of living. so perhaps this immediate reaction and my need to show someone how wrong they are will be removed. or perhaps even better i will be able to stop and decide that there are other battles to be fought and let me just shut-up and take the blame for her mistakes.
so the lesson for today, at least for me, is that when it comes to dealing with my family members, the old decision-making process needs to be evaluated and let go of. after all, in every other area of my life, i am learning how to deal with others, so why not my family. well i need to go get an acupuncture treatment....
∞ DT ∞
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While the author is a member of a 12 Step recovery fellowship, these writings are not intended to endorse or express the published wisdom of any fellowship.
These writings are not meant to be socially or politically correct, and if you take issue with any opinions expressed, please seek the guidance of someone wiser than me.
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☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
by Lao-Tse
Translated by James Legge
Book 2
2) There is no calamity greater than lightly engaging in war. To do
that is near losing (the gentleness) which is so precious. Thus it
is that when opposing weapons are (actually) crossed, he who deplores
(the situation) conquers.