δ i have had and still have one or two exceptionally difficult people in my life Δ
Posted: Wed, Aug 13, 2008 08:31:35 AM
how do i deal with such a person in my recovery? well after the first step in the process suggested -- taking my own inventory, most of the time i discover it is i, that is the a$$hole and not them. on the very rarest of occasions when i am not the person at fault, so to speak, then i need to launch into spiritual principles.
of course i could go on and on, about how learning to forgive others is a function of how well i can forgive myself. or how learning to put myself in the shoes of another person is one of the tools that has integrated into my life,. both of those are true and accurate statements, but they seem so boring that perhaps i will fill you in on some juicy details of one of my currently difficult people…
PSYCHE!
no that would not be living a spiritual program, there are more than one or two, in my life these days and two of the ones i am having the most difficulty with are part of the single amends i am currently working up the courage to do. and of course just to add to the stew, i have a scheduled surgery to stew about, over the course of the next three weeks or so. so distractions abound, all the while i am avoiding calling my sponsor, coming up to the end of my annual recovery cycle, balking on my step work and doubting my decision to move forward with surgery. so although i am not the mess i usually am in this part of my annual cycle, i am nuts enough to be doing some work on my step, and perhaps that is what is being screamed to me by all the forces in my life. DO YOUR FVCKING STEP WORK DUDE. IT WILL NOT HURT, MUCH!
anyhow, back to the difficult people. i am sure that once i move into my step, it will be easier to forgive and move on. as that has been my experience, i am quite certain that part of living the program has not changed.
so it is off to workout, but before i go:
Greg C, congratulations on four years clean!
i am grateful that you are a part of my recovery, and i do remember those days before you became a member. i am grateful you decided to join us!
TTFN.
of course i could go on and on, about how learning to forgive others is a function of how well i can forgive myself. or how learning to put myself in the shoes of another person is one of the tools that has integrated into my life,. both of those are true and accurate statements, but they seem so boring that perhaps i will fill you in on some juicy details of one of my currently difficult people…
PSYCHE!
no that would not be living a spiritual program, there are more than one or two, in my life these days and two of the ones i am having the most difficulty with are part of the single amends i am currently working up the courage to do. and of course just to add to the stew, i have a scheduled surgery to stew about, over the course of the next three weeks or so. so distractions abound, all the while i am avoiding calling my sponsor, coming up to the end of my annual recovery cycle, balking on my step work and doubting my decision to move forward with surgery. so although i am not the mess i usually am in this part of my annual cycle, i am nuts enough to be doing some work on my step, and perhaps that is what is being screamed to me by all the forces in my life. DO YOUR FVCKING STEP WORK DUDE. IT WILL NOT HURT, MUCH!
anyhow, back to the difficult people. i am sure that once i move into my step, it will be easier to forgive and move on. as that has been my experience, i am quite certain that part of living the program has not changed.
so it is off to workout, but before i go:
Greg C, congratulations on four years clean!
i am grateful that you are a part of my recovery, and i do remember those days before you became a member. i am grateful you decided to join us!
TTFN.
∞ DT ∞