โ when things get difficult, i often feel that i can no longer reach out to those who helped me โ
Posted: Thu, Dec 6, 2007 06:51:56 AM
prior to my romantic involvement. this belief can lay the groundwork for a relapse.
okay, so the reading spoke of romantic involvement, honestly though this is not the only relationship in which i can find myself in, that takes me away from what i need to be doing to sustain my program of recovery. business relationships, family obligations and friendships can do the same thing. HOWEVER, it is romance that seems to be the major relationship that can cause me to spend my precious resources, namely time, on activities that do not directly aid my recovery. not that learning how to create and maintain romantic relationships is an activity that is in direct competition with the daily maintenance of my recovery, it just feels like it sometimes. the irony of this is, is that it is not my partner in the relationship who puts the constraints on my time, it is ME! it is also me, who may begin to feel that because i neglected the relationships i had built up in the rooms, that i cannot go back to those people. after all, what will they think!? :))
so although this may be a hot topic for some, for me, i am learning to accept that having a healthy relationship, albeit romantic or otherwise, means that i have to find the time to devote to both the relationship and to my program of recovery. balancing those two NEEDS as well as the rest of what i want and need is the trick, and will always take some effort. life is after all, too short to cut myself off from any of the activities that contribute to my happiness and contentment. love, and recovery need not be mutually exclusive events, even though they may appear to be in my little mind. so i owe, i owe, so it is off to work i go and into another day.
okay, so the reading spoke of romantic involvement, honestly though this is not the only relationship in which i can find myself in, that takes me away from what i need to be doing to sustain my program of recovery. business relationships, family obligations and friendships can do the same thing. HOWEVER, it is romance that seems to be the major relationship that can cause me to spend my precious resources, namely time, on activities that do not directly aid my recovery. not that learning how to create and maintain romantic relationships is an activity that is in direct competition with the daily maintenance of my recovery, it just feels like it sometimes. the irony of this is, is that it is not my partner in the relationship who puts the constraints on my time, it is ME! it is also me, who may begin to feel that because i neglected the relationships i had built up in the rooms, that i cannot go back to those people. after all, what will they think!? :))
so although this may be a hot topic for some, for me, i am learning to accept that having a healthy relationship, albeit romantic or otherwise, means that i have to find the time to devote to both the relationship and to my program of recovery. balancing those two NEEDS as well as the rest of what i want and need is the trick, and will always take some effort. life is after all, too short to cut myself off from any of the activities that contribute to my happiness and contentment. love, and recovery need not be mutually exclusive events, even though they may appear to be in my little mind. so i owe, i owe, so it is off to work i go and into another day.
∞ DT ∞