ยฆ TAKE TWO -- putting principles before personalities ยฆ
Posted: Thu, Oct 25, 2012 09:56:40 AM
well, i was going on and on, about how bad i was with this particular part of the program and wiped out all my work with one bad click. i guess what i was writing about was not what i really wanted to write about, so now for something completely different…
i goes without saying, but i will say it anyhow, that putting principles before personalities, is something i do well at times, especially with those i like and respect and not so well with those i have already formed opinions about. i am far from saintly in this matter and it really does not matter, as unless i want to beat myself up, i have ton accept that i am working towards a better, more elegant implementation of this idea in my life. part of that work, is doing the footwork. what might that be, i hear you asking? well for me, it means staying close to the program by attending meetings, working with a sponsor and doing the daily maintenance part of living a program. the cheerleader wants to jump in here and parrot back all the stuff i have heard about this across the course of my recovery, and as fun as that may be, i am a bit behind in my morning schedule. at least i do not have a commute to get to work today.
the biggest part of this for me, is practicing tolerance which can lead to acceptance. tolerating others means i learn to live with them, because of who they are and not in spite of what i may detect as unacceptable to my peculiar taste. after all, i have behaviors and attributes that are just as distasteful to others, and when i walked into the rooms interacting with me, was not that much different than trying to hug a cactus. today, the needles may be gone, the skin may be a bit softer and easier to penetrate, but the metaphor is still apt.
learning to put these principles in action in all my affairs is what i am working on today, and so far so good, but i have yet to leave my house. we will see what happens when i get out on the wet streets and leave the comfort of my abode. it is after all a great day to be in active recovery.
i goes without saying, but i will say it anyhow, that putting principles before personalities, is something i do well at times, especially with those i like and respect and not so well with those i have already formed opinions about. i am far from saintly in this matter and it really does not matter, as unless i want to beat myself up, i have ton accept that i am working towards a better, more elegant implementation of this idea in my life. part of that work, is doing the footwork. what might that be, i hear you asking? well for me, it means staying close to the program by attending meetings, working with a sponsor and doing the daily maintenance part of living a program. the cheerleader wants to jump in here and parrot back all the stuff i have heard about this across the course of my recovery, and as fun as that may be, i am a bit behind in my morning schedule. at least i do not have a commute to get to work today.
the biggest part of this for me, is practicing tolerance which can lead to acceptance. tolerating others means i learn to live with them, because of who they are and not in spite of what i may detect as unacceptable to my peculiar taste. after all, i have behaviors and attributes that are just as distasteful to others, and when i walked into the rooms interacting with me, was not that much different than trying to hug a cactus. today, the needles may be gone, the skin may be a bit softer and easier to penetrate, but the metaphor is still apt.
learning to put these principles in action in all my affairs is what i am working on today, and so far so good, but i have yet to leave my house. we will see what happens when i get out on the wet streets and leave the comfort of my abode. it is after all a great day to be in active recovery.
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