β« when my temper rises, it is a good idea to β«
Posted: Fri, Jul 4, 2014 10:01:52 AM
back away from the situation until a cooler mind can prevail.
so here i sit, many hours after my **quiet time**, trying to figure out which way to go with this. it is certainly true, that once i get angry, any bit of rational thought flies out the window, and more times than not, i end up having to clean up way more damage than a silly disagreement was really worth.
the good news is: i very rarely rise to that level any more, in fact most of the time, i walk away and allow myself to cool down, long before the coup de grâce, as it were. the bad news? well there is not a whole lot to say here, except it is not my fear of doing harm that motivates this behavior, it is my aversion to having to admit i was wrong, even when i was correct on my side of the argument but went to harmful extremes to get that point across.
so today, as i continue my journey to my family's ancestral home, hey that sounds kind of cool, i will remember that i do not have to get angry, abusive or put out over my interactions with the other members of the humaan race i encounter along the way.
so here i sit, many hours after my **quiet time**, trying to figure out which way to go with this. it is certainly true, that once i get angry, any bit of rational thought flies out the window, and more times than not, i end up having to clean up way more damage than a silly disagreement was really worth.
the good news is: i very rarely rise to that level any more, in fact most of the time, i walk away and allow myself to cool down, long before the coup de grâce, as it were. the bad news? well there is not a whole lot to say here, except it is not my fear of doing harm that motivates this behavior, it is my aversion to having to admit i was wrong, even when i was correct on my side of the argument but went to harmful extremes to get that point across.
so today, as i continue my journey to my family's ancestral home, hey that sounds kind of cool, i will remember that i do not have to get angry, abusive or put out over my interactions with the other members of the humaan race i encounter along the way.
∞ DT ∞