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Posted: Wed, Jan 14, 2026 10:55:17 AM
can i pull back from that is not benefiting me or anyone else? this is always a great path for me to travel down and who knows what rabbit hole it may lead me to. with that caveat behind me, i was always one who pounded others into submission, even when i was wrong, wrong, wrong! my desire to have everyone agree with me, no matter what carried into my recovery and of course into my service efforts, as i finally took on a few. needless to say, i was more than a little confused when after getting everyone around me to see things my way, i was not more popular and respected. it took a very long minute to see that bringing my sledgehammer opinion was never going to advance my cause and using it to hammer others into submission, was never going advance my spiritual growth.
truth be told, i still have the desire to get others to see things my way. what has changed, however, is that i express my opinion in a succinct and compelling manner and let the results play out. whether i am in a discussion with my spouse, a trusted peer or in a service meeting, i have discovered the path to respect, is through being respectful. i can always counter their arguments, but before i do so, have to consider if this is the hill i die on and whether or not this is a battle worth fighting. nine times out of ten, it is not. more than once, even though i knew i was correct, i allowed the body deliberations to turn out as they would, even though in the long run i was correct all along. of course another character trait i carried into recovery with me was the desire to smugly say “i told you so!” that is yet another hill i choose not to die on these days.
is that growth? more than likely. it is however, certainly a symptom of maturity as my teenager need to know everything and be everything has receded into the background. one of the gifts's i have been given is the choice to choose how to act, rather than react in any given situation. most of the time, i can apply my emotional“brakes” and be okay. just for today, i will choose my battles carefully and remember that i do have the ability to allow those around me, to disagree with my opinions, biases and prejudices.
truth be told, i still have the desire to get others to see things my way. what has changed, however, is that i express my opinion in a succinct and compelling manner and let the results play out. whether i am in a discussion with my spouse, a trusted peer or in a service meeting, i have discovered the path to respect, is through being respectful. i can always counter their arguments, but before i do so, have to consider if this is the hill i die on and whether or not this is a battle worth fighting. nine times out of ten, it is not. more than once, even though i knew i was correct, i allowed the body deliberations to turn out as they would, even though in the long run i was correct all along. of course another character trait i carried into recovery with me was the desire to smugly say “i told you so!” that is yet another hill i choose not to die on these days.
is that growth? more than likely. it is however, certainly a symptom of maturity as my teenager need to know everything and be everything has receded into the background. one of the gifts's i have been given is the choice to choose how to act, rather than react in any given situation. most of the time, i can apply my emotional“brakes” and be okay. just for today, i will choose my battles carefully and remember that i do have the ability to allow those around me, to disagree with my opinions, biases and prejudices.
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