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intimate relationships are still a struggle for me. it is true, i am much better than i used to be and i have hope that with the application of the spiritual principles i have been taught, i will become even better. the one part of maintaining these relationships that i seem to trip over the most, is when do i tell someone they have a big, ugly booger hanging out of their nose, that everyone can see? in some of the relationships i have, especially those built on mutual respect and trust, it is as soon as i see it and i tell them directly and without any sort of “passing,” as this is what they have come to expect from me. for those with whom i have a passing relationship with, it comes down to when they choose to ask me, as i have stopped freely offering my unsolicited opinions.
that leaves huge tracts of land between those extremes. in many of those cases, i avoid spending any sort of contact, so i do not say something that i will end up having to take corrective action over. it is not my job to explode the fantasies of those around me, even though once upon a time i believed it was part of my “special purpose” in life. it is also a fact of life that what i think i see, is not reality at all, as i see my peers through a lens of bias and prejudice. what may seem arrogant my actually be an admission of self-worth. what appears to be denial may be a case of choosing to be “positive,” as in carrying the message to the newcomer.all of that adds a complexity to my decision-making process, so i suggest that they may want to take some sort of corrective action to address the immediate problem and leave it at that. no one needs to base their worth on my opinion and it surprises me when i discover someone has done just that.
i could go on, but the hour grows late and it is time to head on down to the salt mines, to earn my daily living. it is a good day to be clean and a better day to look art my part in leaving those huge tracts of land, unexplored.

∞ DT ∞